Planning Isabella’s Baby Shower

20 Feb

I tend to be a control freak, I like to take control of how everything will turn out which  I though would make planning so overwhelming, but I did something that made it so much easier. After all its about budgeting and making sure you don’t add more stress from all the planning.

My baby shower is February 9, 2014.  Invites should be sent two week to a month before  the baby shower so it gives everyone time to buy gifts and make space in their schedules.

Location: I looked at my resources. If you are on a budget, I would recommend doing it at someones house to save yourself the rental fee.

Day & Time: I picked a calm day and made sure it was at a good time from 1-5pm so that guests have no issues waking up early from the night before.

Baby Registry: Best time saver is to start registries online! I was able to register to three: Buy Buy Baby, Babies R Us, and Target. I did all three so that everyone can access the nearest place to them. I repeated some items on each registry as well.  I chose Buy Buy baby because of the good reviews on returns and service. Only downfall is that they have limited locations. Babies R Us is well known but isn’t flexible with returns. Target has a huge selection of things!

Invites: Do not spend money on printing invites! Everything is virtual now. I didn’t mail out invites unless it was to family which I couldn’t go see.  The best time and money saver are the ones you can type up yourself and turn into a JPEG on Microsoft Powerpoint. That’s how I did mine.

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In case you want pre-decorated custom made ones, Pinterest has the best ideas for themes and invites.

Also, make sure you indicate if its women only, or if every one is welcome. Most men don’t like baby showers. When you do a women’s baby shower, it saves you money and time.

Also make sure you list: the location, date, time, registries, specific directions, and phone number to RSVP.

Food: Look up fast and easy party foods online, and also look at Pinterest for ideas on affordable things to do. Make the main course meal at home or hire a local bakery/restaurant to make it for you at a low price. You could also make the food tents yourself on a word doc and print them out on card stock.

Make a list so its easier to give to someone to do if you can’t do it. Here’s what my list looks like:

Appetizers: PB&J sandwiches, Ham & Cheese Sandwiches, mini empandas, croquettes.

Food: Homemade Lasagna,  Paella, Salad.

Drinks: Sangria, Mimosas, Lemonade, & Rasberry Tea

Sweets: Candy Bar, Fruit Skewers, Fruit Cups, Cake.

Chairs & Tables: renting these out can cost you depending on how many people. Its best to give yourself enough time to ask everyone you’ll be inviting if they have or know of anyone who already have chairs and tables that you can borrow; it’ll save you time and money.

Games: Ask a friend to host the games for you. There are so many idea for games online with instructions  that could save you time and money.

Decorations: I was recommended a website that is cheaper than the typical Party City. It’s http://www.OrientalTrading.com. They have great stuff at reasonable prices. Ill be shopping here for the lanterns  and stuff you cant get locally. The rest like table clothes, plates and cups, you can get at your local dollar store.

I’ve just about summed up the most important things for planning a baby shower. If you’d like to add a suggestion in the comments below. Hope this helps any one also planning a baby shower, or anticipating one in the future. 🙂

I had a great baby shower & I didn’t go crazy of forget anything!

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Adaptation.

8 Jan

Sorry I’ve been away from writing. A lot has happened, made another decision that turned my life around & I want to share this with you. All my posts are so that my experiences enlighten you and show you that its our reaction towards things that truly make a difference in the story of our lives.

It’s all fun and  until you tell  them: “I’m pregnant” to man up to their consequences. That’s when you test a man’s true character.

I had missed my period for two weeks but I wasn’t throwing up. They day before the pregnancy stick test, I went to go see him at his job. The drinks that were offered to me didn’t seem appealing anymore. My breasts where sensitive and sore. I told him I might be pregnant, and he smirked and stayed by me all night as I kept him company till after work. We had a great time that night.

The day after, I called him with three pregnancy sticks which all said positive in my hand and said: “you’re going to be a father”

His reaction wasn’t pretty. He wasn’t excited at all. He said there is no way we can have it, because he wasn’t stable financially to have a child and neither was I. It wasn’t long before he got agitated and hung up on me.

I kept my cool. We met a couple of more times and he got motivated. He said he wanted to me meet my mom and brother, move in and start a family. He told me the most beautiful words I’ve ever heard: “I’m forgetting the world its about me you and our little angel. I hope the baby comes out a girl so she comes out a beautiful princess like her mommy.”

Every time he held my tummy and kept his hand there after falling asleep. It was the best feeling I’ve ever felt. I still feel his hands and touch till this day.

I remember the last day I saw him, I’ll never forget it.

He came to my house and I got lost in his alluring touch and I gave in. Once again. I found myself in his arms with satisfaction and excitement. Just like day one. We finished our business and laid in bed looking up at the ceiling holding each other. We hadn’t touched on the subject for a while about him coming to meet my family and he wasn’t bringing it up, so I did.

He didn’t look to happy because I reminded him. He kept thinking of the stress and money that it would cost to maintain a baby because he had already been through this once with the mother of his son. and I was focused on how beautiful it could be. A young girl with not the slightest clue of what it would be like. I listened.. he made a lot of sense and really tried to talk sense into me about an abortion in the nicest way possible.

I had no words for him. I let his words sink into my soul and I just couldn’t stand the idea of killing a  life forming inside me.  We went back in forth talking with two different view points. As soon as I broke down and he saw me in tears, I could see how it affected him. He held me but I couldn’t stop crying, his touch made me more emotional. It wasn’t long before he got agitated and stormed out the door…

Some stay, other’s go because they can’t handle it. Unfortunately the man I picked to have my child decided to leave & not be involved at all. That’s life. I trusted, got hurt and things went sour. After the two months of not seeing the babies father anymore. feelings of loneliness & disappointment slowly creeped up on me. The months after he left was the toughest. The sadness and disappointment lasted two week before I got tired of feeling that way and decided to change my focus…

I wasn’t prepared to be a single parent, but life doesn’t prepare you; it throws things at you unexpectedly. I knew it wouldn’t be easy, but the way i see it is my daughter deserves a right to life; a right to exist. 

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Being a single parent is very mental.  I decided to be a parent the moment I knew what risk my actions had. I decided to see the father with loving eyes because he gave me the gift of being a mother which I didn’t know I had.  I decided to forgive him for not being ready to commit to me and the baby.  We are in touch and I tell him about my progress. He always responds, and even though he isn’t there, I know there’s still a part of him that wants to be there which is why I don’t give him grief. I’m glad he isn’t involved because there is nothing worse than trying to make it work with someone who doesn’t want to. Everything always comes with time.

I’m now almost 7 months & still haven’t seen the baby’s dad . I’ve had some anxiety and fear of the future  and I’ve helped pull myself out by asking myself how I can stay on track and not lose hope…

I’ve noticed that the thoughts of being lonely only come when I lack motivation or don’t remind myself of something to look forward to or be excited about for me and my daughter. Being a single parent is something I look forward to because it will inspire me to mold my daughter & teach her not only from my mistakes but that suffering only exists if you let it.

I chose to NOT suffer because one decision turning sour doesn’t define my life, its what I do from this day forward that does!

Its not losing sight of my goal. I’m happy to say I’ve had a great pregnancy all thanks to being able to focus on something bigger than what I lack. Bigger than depression.  I was given a gift of having a child that I could pass on my legacy to. She is the push and motivation I need to become more.

 

Compassion Sets You Free

3 Jun

When you become compassionate your whole point of view changes from negative to positive no matter how much odds are against you …

Compassion is the key to forgiveness. It clears the past and makes room to start over.

When the focus goes towards seeing past a negative argument or situation , a new window of opportunity opens .

It’s about seeing the bigger picture and knowing that you are connected to someone else. We are all different but want the same- to love, be loved, & understood.

If we all see through loving eyes there is no fear of getting hurt. No need to fight or get into arguments to prove a point. There is no point to prove because all we have left is what we have to offer which can make a difference in someone’s life.

At the end of it all isn’t that what gives us a sense of meaning in life- knowing we helped someone or contributed in someway ?

We don’t have to wait until we are 50 at mid life crisis to realize we have to give back before we go. We could start now and plant seeds so that when we reach that age we could look back and say we did it.

Up until now I could say I have not held resentment or criticized someone for being different than me. We are all unique but want the same things – to love, be loved & understood!

Body & Mind Over All

5 May

It all comes down to our body and mind. Our bodies rely on the fuel from foods we eat to operate and function well. If we take care of our bodies we’ll be able to be in a better state, less reactive to stress,

Our thoughts also affect the level of motivation we have to keep our body in shape. Just as we work our body we must work out our mental conditioning.

In my opinion losing weight by keeping the body in shape and eating clean foods all comes from that thought that tells out body that we can do it. We first have to decide to want to live better and be willing to do what it takes.

What fuels me is the frustration of getting sick from stress, bad eating habits, and not getting enough sleep – drinking coffee, going out and coming back late to only hrs 3 hrs of sleep. It’s not worth it for me.

I’ve decided that body and mind comes first and if there is time left over ill do the rest.

I don’t smoke, no longer drink socially like I used to, and haven’t touched a drink in months. i plan to keep it that way. It just makes me feel better. Maybe that’s to big a step for some of you , just lower your intake and get at least 7 hrs of sleep.

Believe me being consistent with making good decisions over 3 weeks will create an empowering habit. Our mind’s subconscious sends signals to our body to do things based on the information we’ve collected thought the day. That why it’s important to read, hear , and see things that support a healthy lifestyle.

It’s been a struggle eating clean for quite sometime . Ive managed to keep working out & when I’m working I keep good eating consistent but somehow i end up cheating once a day to break boring routine or to relieve the stress & anxiety I get from my job & all these other things that haven’t got done… I lose focus and react.

Can you relate?

I’ve gotten very frustrated and this frustration has led me to ask myself great questions which I will ask you:

You want it but do you want it bad enough?

why do you want to lose weight?

What happens if you don’t lose weight?

After talking to many people through out the weeks I’ve really convinced myself that eating clean and working out is whats really going to make me happy.

Eating right is a lifestyle its not temporary. There are tons of good tasting healthy foods and desserts out there that can be made from scratch with us having to indulge in the sugary ones.

Need energy to work long hours without having to drink coffee or red-bull?

Blend vegetables and fruits that produce energy in the morning ..
Celery
Carrots (skin detoxifier)
Pineapple

How much effort are you willing to put?

Look up energy boost juicing recipes..

Use natural supplants :
water weight burners- XPell
Fat burners- ON chewable amino acids, CLA’s, l- carnitine liquid .
Visit your local vitamin shoppe it GNC ask the reps. They know. 🙂

If you’d rather get advise from a professional certified trainer or nutritionist go for it. the money spent on your health is worth it !

Keep in mind your body will detox with lots of water, supplements and clean eating. If one day you decided to eat a burger and drink beer you will be throwing the body off balance causing you to get sick & frustrated with no motivation to start over and keep going.

Detox your mind & body
Set up a good support system
Make friends and hang out with people who already live a fit and healthy lifestyle.

The Law of Attraction

23 Apr

I was driving home from work one day reflecting on my changes for better. I reminisced on the person I was in high school and the person I am now 6 yrs later.

What changes have you made? Have you stayed the same?

I’ve come a long way. I get less mad, Im more forgiving and understanding, more patient all these good things yet it dont feel it’s enough when I interact with society. I feel the majority notice the good but don’t pay mind to it.

Can you relate?

The level of importance in values has been diminished through the distractions of pleasing others & fitting in to get a sense of belonging.

I feel like my views and things i talk about are boring to most yet i haven’t talked to enough people or surrounded myself around others who think the same ….

That’s why id like to remind & encourage you to make an effort to choose who you surround yourself with wisely.

Do they empower or encourage you to be better ?

Do they have interests in the kind of things you like?

Where and who we focus on becomes a reality.

There are a few people that i always notice that do understand and are on the same page. They are focused on things I’ve focused on- so they stand out. The law if attraction will attract certain people based on your focus.

What have you focused on:
The news talking about terrorism ?
How to make more money?
Passing finals and drinking on weekend to unwind?
Bills and family issues ?

Is what you focus on producing good results? Results you are happy with?
If it not you can readjust and fix a couple things.

Figure out if its the people you hang out with or hobbies you do that are throwing you off…

We should be ourselves and not do things based on society’s expectations…

Deepak says time is an illusion. It’s what we choose to do with that time that determines how we ll feel and act.

He says to control time as a basic aspect of yourself. Recovering an knowing what we could do in the present and not let the past trap us.

He says if there is anything to fear it should be the known bc it’s the habitual conditioned patterns of the past. The unknown offers new opportunity, a fresh start.

Now is the time to make a fresh new decision that will get you on track. If you are reading this you have a desire to improve your life . You are already on the right track!

Life is a Gift

17 Apr

I got into an accident that could of ended my life on 04/07/13.

Photo: An angel was by my side last night...

I'm so happy to be alive 
It could of been worse.

I’m motivated now more than ever to improve the quality of my life.

I was so shook up that I wrote this letter before going to sleep worried about my injuries to the head.

This is what I wrote a day after the accident:

“Today I saw my dad for the first time in months and he told me a story as did my co-worker about two girls who got injured in an accident and though they were fine, days later they died. Not the best thing to tell me after I’ve been through an accident, but it gave me a reality check.

I’m not going to lie, it reminded me of my situation  I haven’t gotten a CT yet since the accident on Sunday at 4am. I feel fine I just hope today isn’t my last day. At one point i was avoiding this thought like most people would. We get skeptical about attracting negative energy, but there is nothing bad in dying nor thinking about it. I let myself think about it for the first time. I asked my self what would i like to do before I die? Well i would want to hear from the people in my life what they’d say to me if they’d never see me again.

I text the people in my life: “What would you say to me if today was my last day to live?”

Its quite the dramatic question, some freaked out & got concerned, others were more calm and spiritual about it. I asked this because that accident made me think about everything in my life. That night I realized that life should be lived like its our last, every bit of our lives should be fully lived to the max. Pushing limits, facing fears, doing things we’ve never did. There  is only one life to live, time shouldn’t be wasted.  I asked myself:

Am I ready to die?

Am I at peace?

Have I done the things I’ve always wanted to do?

Would I be proud of myself  & my accomplishments?

What message would I like to pass on before I go?

I’d like to pass on the message be a student of life to my family. Have them be an example of living a happy fulfilled life because I wouldn’t want anything bad for them. I would want to let people know I’m at peace. I don’t suffer because I’ve to see things in a good way. I’ve experienced and I’ve taught myself how to deal with all my struggles and be as honest as I can to people. You could say I’m quite guilt free.

Always be honest with people. Do good for them and let the wall down to those who seem like good people. let people see how loving you are, show love & compassion to everyone when you get rejected, show love to the person who took things from you, show love to the ones who don’t know how to love because they are the ones who need it most. Its your way of giving back and helping others with their life.

Besides all my struggles I’ve always pursued living a better life. Something in me tell me to keep going- not to give up. That night I got into an accident, I could of passed, but it wasn’t my time. and if today was my time, I could say that I never lacked of anything. That my time spent here was well spent infusing a passion in me to want to be a life coach which has been a major step forward & I’m proud of that.

Life is a gift.

My message to you is to be thankful you are alive! Do not settle for less that what you could be. Do not be afraid of what you can be capable of. Do not limit yourself!

Nurture your body.

Clear your mind.

Forgive and move forward.

Learn and pass on.

Use your time wisely.

Be A Student of Life for me.
Study Life Gain Balance.

Break Routine

28 Mar

“I mean we get up from out box-shaped bed to eat a box cereal breakfast, drive our box to our box office, have lunch in our box tupperware and come back to do it all over again” Tony said.

He’s right. We create a routine to discipline ourselves to go to work and go home. That’s fine but how much longer before you get tired of the same thing week after week?

I say if you’re going to live life live it with balance so that you can achieve happiness and fulfillment. There will be things that we must do but we also must make room to do things that break routine so we don’t burn out.

Yesterday was my day off. Instead of going to the gym, I went to the beach to run. I may have said this before but I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to dedicate one day to yourself where you do what you want.

Schedule things that empower, motivate, and push you to be your very best.

I really don’t like running but because I did it at the beach, I enjoyed it 100%, sunburn and all.

What can you do to make things you don’t like to do a +10 experience?

The purpose of breaking routine is to take a break, recover, and avoid burn out. At the beginning, the break will feel so good that going back to routine will be a challenge. You make slack and be a little off the day after you rested, but with a little push and motivation set up for routine day, you’ll get the hang of it.

Soon you’ll notice how your quality of life starts to change. You’ll be getting more done and feel good about how much you’re taking care of yourself.

Your body is your temple, your mind is the director. Feed your body good so that your mind is clear on the direction you want to go. If your body is not taken care of, your mind will accept it and you will deviate off course.

Even if you do deviate off course, never be hard on yourself about it. Just pick up where you left off. I’ve deviated many times, and I’m still here striving to be better. Never loosing focus of my goal.

So as I strive to live a better life, I want to encourage you to do it with me.

Share your story with me. Ill be that support you need.

Shoot me an email BeAStudentOfLife@gmail.com

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To your success!

-Jess