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Feeling Stressed & Anxious about your Goals Lately?

12 Mar

I write to share my experiences in hopes of inspiring others. The other day I had an experience with one of my cousins.

She was going through what I had finished going through: sickness, working two jobs, poor diet, no exercise, no energy- she was burning herself out as I did no to long ago, This was an exact reflection of what most go through in their lives to try to accomplish goals.

She had her eyes on the prize & she wanted it so bad that she was sacrificing her health for it. She said she needed time management as did I when I realized I was burning myself out.

Luckily I got something out of the beginning of Tony’s time management MP3’s that have helped me cope and manage my stress levels- which is to write all the to do’s under outcomes. (I’ll explain this further on, keep reading!)

I also had two mentors/coaches tell the same thing right around the same time: “Put yourself first”. Up until this day I still thank Brandon & Atlas for reminding me. Since I’ve put this into practice I’ve been much happier working and paying bills because I know that when that paycheck comes in, I’ll get rewarded!

Going back to my cousin, that night I had told her that she needs to dedicate one day to herself out of the week where she does absolutely nothing.

Mine is today and I’ve been home all day watching movies & healing from this cold. Feeling good enough to write this week’s blog post.

I also told her to not be discouraged if she is sick or out of energy. To get right back up again. Even though I have this cold and can’t work out, I’m still eating clean and have my weight loss goals in mind. When I heal Ill bounce right back up again and weight train.

It about preparation & reading up on how to make yourself better even when life throws things at you that can delay the process. Sometimes we become impatient because the results we want don’t happen as quick as we want and so we get anxious.

What’s provided me with peace of mind has been writing my to do’s into action steps for one outcome, so that when i think of my goals & progress I just think of one out come and not overwhelm myself with all the to do’s.

Your goals are your outcomes. Your to do’s are actions steps. Write them down into an outline.

Use this as an example:

Outcome 1- get a’s n b’s in all classes.
Action Step 1-
Action Step 2-

Outcome 2- have enough energy through out the day
Action Step 1-
Action Step 2-

Outcome 3- get prepared for _________
Action step 1- volunteer

Outcome 4- have enough money for _______
Action step 1-
Action step 2-

Outcome 5- save up $_____ by _____ for vacation.
Action step 1-
Action step 2-

So don’t feel stressed & anxious about your goals. Be patient and know that this outline is your peace of mind, your validation that as long as you are completing one action step a day for each outcome, you are getting closer to your goals!

I’ve done this and I look at my outline every week to remind me to stay on track and not lose sight of my goal. So for you I wish the same! Share your experience and let me know how I could help!

Skype me: BeAStudentofLife

Remember this?

study life gain balance

Its all about Balance.

Balance= Happiness & Fulfillment.


Embrace Silence

4 Mar

Quiet moments don’t mean loneliness!
Many of us avoid quiet moments because they make us feel lonely. Instead we resort to tv, radio, and other entertainment to make us feel like we aren’t alone- to distract us.

When we focus on a bad day at work, an argument, or a mistake not only does it set our moods but we also stay stuck unable to move forward.

The subconscious can replay the same scene of your life over & over again occupying all your focus and deviating you off path.

The challenge with that once your mood is set, you are in a trance and forget or don’t make time to remember things that are priority.
That’s why so many of us never accomplish goals or get things done on time.

Train your mind to work for you, not against you.

When there is silence, don’t reflect on what went wrong unless you’re trying to learn from it. This is a time to reflect and remember your goals, get back on your path if you were deviated, & to remind yourself of important things that need to be done.

Next time turn off your phone, tv, radio, and listen to the silence. Let the voice in your head talk, but listen closely to what it’s thinking

What or who do you think of the most?
Is it productive or destructive?
Is it positive or negative?

Catch your thinking process, reflect, and change your thoughts if they’re not serving you.

We are what we think. Choose you’re thoughts wisely! Thoughts become words, and words become actions that create our destiny!

Be in control and set the right stepping stones in your path. If you deviate, it’s ok just get right back on track again!

If you ever want to talk Skype me- BeAStudentOfLife

Hypnotized by Illusion

27 Feb

An illusion is a perception of reality.

Picture your life taken in photographs through instagram. You choose the angle, place, colors, positions, and filter to create an illusion of what you want your life to be, look, and feel like.

The more pictures you take with the same lens, angles, and positions the more real it becomes to you.

If you’re not happy with your current life conditions, start taking new pictures that show what kind of life you want even if you are not living it yet. The concept of “fake it till you make it” works just as long as you make it.

I don’t like using “fake” as a word used to describe someone who’s acting different than what everyone knows them as.

It could be a transition, becoming is a process, it’s not something you jump into instantly.

What happens when the illusion becomes a problem in your life and you realize that what you lived before was putting you on a path leading no where?

Creating an illusion to fit in and get a sense of belonging is a path you don’t want to be on.

Society and the people that surround you will continue to encourage it because they too are in the same illusion you are in.

Snapping out of an illusion when its not doing us any good can be our greatest challenge because we don’t realize its doing us any damage.

What kind if pictures are you taking?

Are you attracting the right crowd to like your pictures?

Are you getting any good responses to these pictures?

What’s important is finding the desire to change things that are holding you back.

If you are willing to snap out of it and create a new illusion to improve your life, share it with me!

I’m on Skype – BeAStudentofLife

Love is not just a verb it’s you looking in the mirror

12 Feb

If you want something real and you want to settle this post is for you. If you just want fun with no commitment this post isn’t for you.

Do you see couples and get demotivated or do you smile and compliment them?

If you get demotivated or feel upset you may have to let go of some baggage.

Do you say this often:
“They are all the same”
“They are impossible”
“They are liars, don’t trust them”

Let me let you in on something that has been proven through out the years: The way you talk and think will turn into words which will turn Into actions that attract those kind of people.

The more you focus on the things you don’t want in a person the more of it you will attract.

Next time around look for things you can appreciate in someone and you’ll see how your focus changes. You’ll start to feel thankful and appreciate all the small details in that person.

Being thoughtful and appreciating the small things will have anyone like you. Make a person feel good and treat them right, they’ll do the same for you.

When you do choose to start talking to or date someone make sure they are motivated and someone that can make you better.

You can find that out within a week of getting to know the person.

Does he/she give you advise or are they constantly talking about them selves?

Does he/she show interest in what you do daily by asking about how your day went or do they talk about themselves?

Look out for self-absorbed people they may want to impress you & have looks but chances are they are selfish and won’t value you in the future . Don’t go for short term pleasure if you want long term gains, see the bigger picture always.

Going back to upset and disappointment … It can be avoided by looking at yourself first.

Some of us go from the wrong person as a challenge and try to change that person. Others do it because they see in that person what they lack.

If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not to people or things…

If you’re not happy single you won’t be happy taken. Be sure to work on yourself first before dedicating yourself to someone else.

Let go of grudges, forgive, and let go so that you don’t block yourself out of a good opportunity to experience something great.

You don’t have a special someone this valentines to feel great. Pamper and make yourself feel good instead!

Happy Valentines Day!

Caught Up Making a Living instead of Designing Your Life?

28 Jan

We are all insane at one point of our lives. Some stay in that same path for a lifetime.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

Doing the same thing we’ve always done will get us the same results we’ve always had.

The same work routine keeps us comfortable & stable but paychecks stay the same and so does the limited opportunity to do other things.

We get caught up in making a living to pay bills and support our families but we don’t design out life the way we want…

Whether you have kids, work two jobs, or go to school I’m here to tell you that you can design your life the way you want.

Just ask the right questions & you’ll get the right answers.

How can I afford what I want ?

How much time can I dedicate to planning for my/family’s future?

What can I do on the side for at least 1 hour a day to boost my income?

Have more than one stream of income

More expenses & inflation, same paycheck …

As you’re at work today think about your paycheck.

How much can you use for yourself after you’ve paid all your bills?

If you don’t have anything left, its time to prioritize & cut expenses… if not it’ll be difficult to grow because you’re living paycheck to paycheck.

If you can separate at least $100 from your paycheck, then you have some room to start making moves to make more income as you work.

How to make more money while having a job

1. Put $100/mo into a savings, CD or 401k account. (Less risk but interest rates fluctuate based on market conditions)

2. Put $100/mo. into a stock (etrade requires a $200 minimum deposit to open an account).

3. Invest $100/mo into working from home offering products or services with a network marketing company such as BodybyVi, Yoli, Ameriplan, Avon, marykay, Amway, etc…

4. Get a license in Real Estate or other programs to do contract work on your own hours.

As a student of life I’ve tried all these options and feel #4 would work best for me at this point.

If you want to transform your life and do something more than just a 9-5pm it’s time to start thinking outside the box. Research, ask, and invest.

What are you going to do with your next paycheck?

Choose wisely!

Have a productive week! 🙂

Happiness is a choice.

16 Jan

Being happy in a relationship

Both partners being  happy in a relationship is something many couples struggle with because of not being on the same page or asking the right  questions.

Now as students of life, when we want something we must study it.

That why I’ve taken the time to ask my friends and get feedback as to what makes both partners happy in a relationship. The screen shot of feedback are below the page ! 🙂

As you’re balancing your life, part of it is studying things you want to be good at.

Today’s post is about what it takes for both partners to be happy in a relationship. You’ll e getting my perspective based out of my experience in a 5 year relationship and others people’s current experiences as well.

If you want a good relationship, study it.

Certainty. Reassurance. Security. Recognition.

These are all things we want to feel & we expect when we’re with someone.

Issues arise when we see out needs aren’t been met by someone who we had expectations for.

Although one partner isn’t meeting  needs the way that the partner wants, he or she still feels that they’ve been doing their part, while the other disagrees.

Some tend to start reaching out to others for advise so that they make a fair decision without realizing that any advise from someone who is not in your relationship will be flawed.

Why anyone’s advise other than your own becomes flawed.

It is because no one person is the same. When friends and family give you advise they take sides and give their opinion based on their experience which may not apply to your situation.

You can’t change things out of your control.

Some tend to try to change the way the person is so that they get their need met.

This is where it gets out of one’s control because its not possible to change someone unless they feel they need to or want to change.

The trick is to see them and treat them as the change you want to see.

The main issue is that each partner had their own way of showing love and it may not be the way their partner is expecting. Out of this arise feelings of not being appreciated, confusion, anger, and frustration which can ultimately damage a relationship

To keep a healthy relationship both partners must be willing to change.

Not change themselves, but change their approach towards doing things that do make their partner happy. Making an effort to ask questions about what makes them happy.

The best kind of feedback or advise you can ever get is the one your partner gives you. That’s how you get to really know your partner’s wants and needs.

Things to keep in mind:

  • Asking the right questions avoids wasting time on both ends.
  • There is no perfect man or woman with all the qualities; you’ve got to be willing to compromise.
  • If you’re dating and the connection and attraction is just right, it’s worth you spending some time on.
  • As you get to know someone you can determine what you’re willing to compromise or meet half way on.
  • You can’t change someone; instead treat them as the change you want to see in them.
  • Don’t let bad experience make you bitter, let it make you wiser.
  • It is possible to learn to understand each other but only if both partners make the effort. No one likes to do everything alone.
  • No one person is the same, every person you meet deserves a clean slate. Let go of the baggage.
  • it’s time to understand more, fear less.
  • Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and get what you really want.

Whether you’re single and looking or in a relationship, its always good to know these things!

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Striving for CANI

8 Jan


Striving for better every day. Achieving one thing daily is constantly improving.
It’s either uphill /or downhill \ no plateau —.
If we can improve on one thing in each area of our lives we’d achieve balance which would mean happiness and fulfillment.

The hardest thing to master in life is balance. we all want quick results & answers because we live in such a high paced world with things on demand that patience is really becoming hard to sustain.

Achieving balance means having time to dedicate to all areas of our lives. Balance requires patience because focus is divided here for taking longer to achieve. Once it had been mastered our lives will feel complete.

That is my mission. As most of you may already know I aspire to be a life coach. Im working on mastering balance so I study life. I’m a student of life who will one day transform into a life coach. I do this because by helping myself first ill be in better shape to help others. In order to be of good service and help others the right way I need to have mastered what I talk about & put the concept of balance to practice.

As the weeks have passed by I’ve posted things in social media about setting goals in areas of life such as


I’ve talked about setting one year goals in each area, creating a dream board.

I’m focused on is health. My goal is to lose 20lbs by March 2013.

I’m also making space for my career by writing on this blog once week.

Working on a relationship with someone who has similar values and is helping me grow, and keeping a close bond with my family and friends.

Growth: I’ve signed up for the adopt a meal program and other organizations to contribute and grow once a week.

Money: I have 3 interviews lined up tomorrow and I’ve been looking into short term investment options like CDs so I can get some ROI by July 2013.

Fun/adventure: I’m finally getting to step outside my comfort zone and exploring Miami for the first time ever.
I’m taking road trips and visiting different cities in the weekend.

The goal is to be an example of balance. Always make space and room for all areas of your life for maximum fulfillment. When we take the time to prioritize ourselves, set goals, take action, measure progress, and stay consistent success is around the corner