The Concept.

19 Apr
When people ask me if I go to school, I always tell them I do.
I attend the university of life and I learn something new every day.

This blog is a reflection of what I pursue on a daily basis with a simple goal- being happy while striving to be better.

To be a student of life is to study it. If you ever want to be good at living life you have to study it. If we look deeper, life is made up of the values we were raised with. Our lives revolve around them. the problem is that sometimes we need to be reminded that our values are much more important than out needs.

Values: Health, Family, Friends, Fun/Adventure, Career, Health/Fitness

Needs: Attention, money, recognition, variety, confidence

To meet those needs we engage in activities like going out, celebrating,  shopping, vacationing, working overtime, eating, drinking… etc

Sometimes we violate our values to meet our needs. When our needs are not in sync with our values it can hurt the true outcome we want for our lives. This can lead to negative feelings and thoughts. So if your feeling bored or lonely you’ll have a need to socialize, go out, and be exposed to that kind of life that give you want your looking for which is company and feeling recognition.

To get to the point- too much of something  is never good. There has to be balance. This blog represents that. A reminder to always have balance in life which can lead to the happiness you desire!

I hope that this can remind you when you need it most because there’s nothing I would want more than for you to have hope that there is always a way. That no matter how tough things get, it can be done.

To your success,


How to keep your Toddler busy while working from Home

2 Jun

If you’re like me and stay home by yourself with your toddler, you have to think outside the box if you want to get work done.

The truth is I get frustrated especially when I can’t distract her when I need to focus…

Strategies to distract your Energizer bunny:

Let them make a mess

Toddlers need the most attention which means less attention to your business. One thing that I’ve realized is, I have to let her make a temporary mess. If I constantly be on top of her to not make a mess, its a lot more frustrating not only for me but for her. Toddlers get bored easily and are constantly looking to experiment and make a mess of things.

What I mean by let them make a mess is not spilling juice, food, and water everywhere. I mean letting them make a mess with things that are safe in a controlled area, like toys!🙂

How to keep toddler busy while working from home

Use your phone to set reminders and to-do’s

I set up my phone to work for me when I need to be away from the computer. When I’m using my phone, I set up to do’s on the computer as soon as she take her mid-day nap. Make sure you chose a task that takes an hour, or several small ones that you can complete in an hour so you don’t leave things unfinished. In that hour she’s asleep, I’m on the computer doing that list so I use my time wisely and stay on track.

Once she is awake, I spend an hour with her before I leave her to play with her toys on her own and come to the computer again.

Have snacks and back up toys ready

Make your you have quick snacks to give mid morning and mid afternoon in case he/she gets hungry. Also have two or three activities next to you (aside from the 3 boxes of toys your toddler has in front of them!!!), so that you distract him/her and satisfy his/her need to be next to you. Wooosah!

Always leave work where you left off so you remember to finish it.

Leave longer tasks for when your toddler goes to sleep at night

For tasks that require more focus and time, save it for when your hubby gets home, or for when your toddler is sleeping in bed.

Meal-prep to make cooking quicker

What also helps you get back to work in the evening is meal prepping. I will go more into what foods you can meal- prep for dinner in another post so that cooking is a breeze and you can get back to working!


Also have A LOT of patience for the little things your toddler does to get your attention. After all they come first and need you more than you need them!


Don’t let deadlines and urgencies stress you out to where you neglect your toddler. With planning, everything is possible!

As your toddler gets older, it’ll get easier to work. This is all temporary. Sometimes when I get frustrated I need that reminder. The cost for working from home is loosing sleep, but in return you will get to your goals!

I’d love to hear your story, please comment below.🙂

How to get your toddler potty trained in one day!

30 May


This is Bella, she just turned Two & is now potty trained to go during the day! Yayy Bella!

(I’m sorry if anyone is disgusted about me showing her business in the picture, but the cartoons do it too! )

Although we still have to learn to go to the potty at night, its a start and mommy is excited about it and wanting to share and help other moms !

She learned the habit of walking to her potty in one day without peeing, but I had to reinforce it on day two just to be sure. Today is her third day and she goes all by herself without reminders!

Here’s what potty training looked like before she learned….

I had seen a couple of videos of moms using Dolls. I tried what they did, and put diapers on Doll , took them off and put the doll in the potty. She played with it, instead of apply it to herself. Didn’t work.

I tried the pull -ups but she felt it was fine peeing and pooping in them until they leaked.

I tried taking her to the potty every 15 minutes, which both of us didn’t like!

She was peeing and pooping all over the floor . I had to clean up after her so much in the morning, that I never made it to the afternoon or the next day in continuing to potty train. I was so inconsistent because I thought it would take a week of doing the same exhausting thing until she got the point. That was something I was not ready to do while taking care of her two month old brother. A month had gone by and she was still in diapers. I knew I had to try again.

Here’s what turned everything around…

I had just rejected a great job opportunity last Wednesday. I was supposed to start working for Carnival Cruise lines, and decided not to. (I’ll talk about that more in one of this week’s posts.)

When I realized I was going to be home for good, that I was so inconsistent with potty training Bella, and that our budget would be tight, I decided to commit.

I told myself i would not stop until she learned to go to the potty.

I started on Friday thanks to a post I read and commented on in a FB group called Play dates of Miami. A very helpful mom suggested I put an alarm on my phone with a jingle every 30 mins to remind me and her to go potty.

I decided to try it!


We started at 7am and went about our normal routine. I took off her diaper and pants and let her be while she watched Sophia. Every time it went off I put a smile on and held her hand walking her to the portable potty saying “potty time!”.


Since this was her first day, I put the potty in the living room so she could get to it quicker and sit on it while watching her cartoons. She peed and pooped once on the floor early in the morning.

As time went by, she got used to the jingle, me saying “potty time”, and her walking to the potty.

She peed in the potty 3 hrs after we had started and she had a confused look on her face. I was right there when she went that I threw a party for her, gave her a high five, and a sticker. I did this everytime she went, and she loved it!

The next day we started at 7am again and she remembered to go! She even took the tray out of the potty to come show me! 😂 She was so happy because she knew she would get rewarded for it.

I knew I no longer needed the jingle but left it on just in case.

My husband even jumped in and reminded her when it went off.

Today is day 3 , I’m not using alarms anymore and she’s going all by herself. She peed in her shorts once when she was in the playpen but that’s it so far.

She napping now with pampers on because she still needs to learn to not pee when she sleeps.

If any moms have tips on how to get her to learn please comment below!

If you are also trying to teach your child to go potty, I hope this post helps! Feel free to leave a comment!

How to attract the right person in your life

26 May

I left off with giving birth to my daughter and planning the best possible future with her despite my failure in choosing the right man to create a family with. I refused to give up! Whether you are single with kids or no kids, let me tell you my story of what I did that helped me stay positive and attract the right man in my life. I feel I’ve come a long way. Despite being hurt and vulnerable I tried something different and I’d like to share it and see if it helps you in anyway.

Once I knew that man did not want the responsibility of a child, I knew I had to take control and focus only on what would make me happy. I had two choices: I could let that experience lead me to never trust another man again leading to me being alone and bitter with no chance at creating a family with someone deserving of us or I could focus on that chance of finding love again; no matter how small that chance others made it feel like, I decided I did have a chance at making a loving family.

After 9 months of dates, breaks from dates, disappointments, awakenings, I learned how to detect the wrong men and focused on those who I felt had true intentions based on their actions not just words. I also made sure to let every man I date know that if they are to accept me and love me, they have to love my child as well.

I barely had but two hours max to go on dates, and couldn’t be away from my daughter longer than that. I stayed true to my identity as a mom first, letting every person know that what I’m looking for is not a fling; I made it clear I wanted a serious relationship to build my family with.

The more I said what I wanted the first time I spoke to the person, the less men stayed. Being honest and upfront helped me push the wrong men away and attract the right one.

Even after almost a year of dating, I never let bad experiences make me bitter. I still kept trying and gave every person a chance without judging them right away.

What helped me stay focused is always reminding myself of what good qualities I looked for that outweighed the bad.

I stopped wanting a person who only focused on looks and focused on a person with soul and heart that I could feel attracted to just by spending time with them. Attracted. Not just physically but mentally and emotionally. Physical didn’t mean abs and muscles, it meant posture and focusing on the persons best features despite not having a model physic, like their smile & eyes. What it took mentally for me to be connected to someone is being on the same page, having a flow of conversation, and having things in common. What it took for someone to connect with me emotionally was for him to be a gentleman that treated me with respect and made me feel good being myself!

Once I knew what to look for, making the right choices became easier. I remembered what I had to look for and that made it easier for me to enjoy my dates and not make it an interrogation.

I never lost sight of finding the one. I always believed the right person for me was out there. Little did I know I would find him sooner than later!


This person, which is now practically my husband and father to not only to my daughter but our son, had all the qualities I focused on finding and the more I trusted in him the more he opened up and showed me the best of him. Finding a good man wasn’t as hard as keeping a relationship going despite frustrations and learning about our flaws later down the road.

From what I’ve seen and heard, many of us cut that person off the moment something goes wrong, especially when it comes to our kids. I understand that because many of us still have a wall up and don’t want to invest so much of ourselves to only end up getting hurt again.

Here’s the secret: decide that you wont give up even when there will be fights & misunderstandings involving your children. This happens because your partner is learning to adapt to your ways and learning maybe something new he has no experience with. As long as he is not verbally and physically abusive to you or your children, and willing to be involved as a father there is no reason why you should cut him off.

It takes time & patience to really get adjusted to each other.

What also made this last long once we agreed that this was getting serious between us is jumping right into what most people take years to do: live with each other. Why wait and dedicate all this time to someone to only find out that living together was a mistake and it wont work. We wanted to find out sooner and had the same intentions in mind: to make it work.

I wont get into details but let me tell you…. he was always willing to change his ways and make things better as was I. We never let our egos get in the way of ruining our relationship. We treated it with care and thought twice before ending it no matter how much we fought. Eventually we ended up fighting less by talking about and avoided what caused the fight in the first place.

That takes patience and time. Its best to accept the person at their worst keeping in mind that they still have the qualities that made you fall in love in the first place.

Despite all his flaws, he was still honest, loyal, attentive and funny as ever. I never lost sight of that. When I wasn’t thinking straight, he was the one to uplift me and remind me to keep going. We both agreed we wanted a forever from the start. It takes commitment, patience, and forgiveness to keep a strong relationship going!

I’m proud to say I’ve found my forever. I’ve accepted his flaws, his ways, and his best qualities. I vow to never lose sight of that.

Light up the Darkness

28 Aug

Why is that our children rebel & question why it is that WE dont do we are teaching them?

Actions speak louder than words never sounded so good. It is not what we say that teaches them, its who we’ve become. If we tell them to do something we’ve never done, they may listen, but won’t leave such a big impact.

Same applies in a seminar or meeting where others look up to an expert as the living example of what he or she preaches.

For those of us who feel not just there yet, look again….

If we encounter setback or find ourselves in difficult situations its because it is part of our purpose to be there.

As Joel Olsteen says: “we all have a purpose throughout our lives…to light up the darkness”.

If you are surrounded by negativity, you were put there to change that and bring positivity.

If you are surrounded by complainers and naggers its for a reason. You’ve been put there to fulfill your purpose in giving others something to be thankful and happy about.

For every bad situation theres a way to turn it around and make it good. Go ahead take advantage of it.

Im just the messenger… I love writing about things that can help others but I definately need put this into practice as well.

Erase any setback circling your mind tonight and replace it with a step you can take forward to make yourself feel better. Tomorrow youll feel great and you’ll know what step to take next!🙂

Free Yourself

20 Aug

Free yourself from Guilt.

Free yourself from Anger.

Free yourself from Resentment.

Free yourself from Insecurities.

For every thing you hold in and account for there’s a baggage. That baggage can get very heavy.  Soon it’ll start to pile up on your shoulders until you cant keep going anymore. Does this sound familiar?

  • When your day comes to leave this world, would you have lived your life the way you wanted?
  • What is holding you back?

Tomorrow is not guaranteed, but today is.

Don’t wait, put the baggage down and walk away…

make a decision that will make you feel light on you feet- change your life.

What ever it is, let it go and FREE YOURSELF.


When you are FREE you’re:








Be known as the person who lived life to the fullest not one who lived miserably.

Be the person people are intrigued and inspired to follow.

Leave your footprint in this world by touching the lives of other people with your presence.

Get closer to God, say your sorry, offer to help a stranger, stay quiet and pick your battles, help the ones that hurt you the most and see how you get rewarded 10 times more!

You have to believe in the law of reciprocation.

You have to believe that although people take, you’ll always give knowing you’ll get more in return somehow.

You have to have patience and believe that your time will come.

But NOW is the time to act and put out GOOD KARMA.



Compassion Sets You Free

6 Aug

worth reblogging!

Be A Student of Life

When you become compassionate your whole point of view changes from negative to positive no matter how much odds are against you …

Compassion is the key to forgiveness. It clears the past and makes room to start over.

When the focus goes towards seeing past a negative argument or situation , a new window of opportunity opens .

It’s about seeing the bigger picture and knowing that you are connected to someone else. We are all different but want the same- to love, be loved, & understood.

If we all see through loving eyes there is no fear of getting hurt. No need to fight or get into arguments to prove a point. There is no point to prove because all we have left is what we have to offer which can make a difference in someone’s life.

At the end of it all isn’t that what gives us…

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Planning a Good Birth Experience

24 Feb

Whether you chose a hospital, home or birth center, all pregnant women should take hypnobirthing classes!  Giving birth in peace and working with the body without fear is possible &  does exist. Every mother deserves to  have a good birthing experience, not one with pain and agony.

The Giving Birth with Pain Epidemic

As soon as everyone around me knew I was pregnant I started getting advise, stories, warnings and cautions. Even after tellign them I didn’t want to hear it if it was negative, people still ended up saying it! I’m sure there was no bad intentions, but I just couldn’t take it. I was overwhelmed but soaked in every bit of it. When I got home all those conversations flooded my head for weeks.

“You’re not getting an epidural, good luck… ”

“I didn’t feel a thing with the epidural.. the best thing I did to stop the pain”

“Its better if you have a C-Section, then pain in unbearable”…

“The doctor said my aunt needed a C section because the baby was taking too long to come out”

“My sister  wasn’t dilating so she a C-section”..

Way to many women complaining and yes it scared the crap out of me at first!

I’m 7 months now and I still  hear the same stories from different women, except now I just smirk and block it out. I refuse to go in unprepared and scared.  Giving birth without screaming for an epidural or suffering doesn’t come natural. It has to be practiced on every day.

How it Important it is Choosing The Right Doctor

The type of doctor you choose is really important. Any one with a doctors degree sit there and call themselves qualified to deliver, but none of that matters if he or she isn’t involved with your progress or always bringing up what if scenarios. It takes a certain person with good positive beliefs  to give you confidence to have  a great birth experience.

The first doctor I picked I stayed with for the first and and half of my second trimester before realizing he wasn’t even involved like I wanted him to be. I was making the mistake of sticking by because he was close by house. He didn’t even discuss my lab and ultrasound results not once, he just said “everything came back fine”.

When I had questions he would answer them but rush through it. I felt super uncomfortable.  Not to mention the office manager had the worst attitude which set the whole mood for that office. I asked for all my blood work and ultrasound paperwork to be printed out, took them with me and never came back again.

The next day I came across one of the “Best obgyns in Mercy hospital”. He gave me a very warm greeting and sat down to discuss my blood work and ultrasounds which the other doctor failed to do. I felt a relief, but I couldn’t help but notice the condition he was in. He didn’t take very good care of himself.. very overweight, sick,  just a bad physical appearance is what noticed. As I spoke to him about my concerns, he kept steering towards a C section outcome as the second option. He mentioned how if the baby stayed in there for too long after the water breaking that the baby can end up in NICU and sick for days or weeks because she could get an infection.

I sat there thinking, this doctor is too negative for me. There was no favor of natural birth. He was in favor of the hospital and reducing any liability. I felt I wouldn’t be in control. How is a woman supposed to feel after hearing that from a doctor that is supposed to be delivering her baby? How confident would that mother feel about going in without fear?

I refused to settle so I left that practice &  stood firm in my belief to find a place that offered a better way of giving birth.

Why I Chose to Water Birth

Water birth is safe and does not compromise the baby in any way unless the mother is high risk. No birthing center would recommend a water birth to a high risk pregnant mother. Hospitals over time have chosen to eliminate water birth to avoid any liability like hypothermia from the cold hospital temperature, and other events out of their control.

Giving birth in the water lowers blood pressure, lowers the baby’s heart rate, reduces the risk of tearing, relaxes muscles & relieves the pain from the contractions as the baby is making its way down to crown. It replaces the epidural. As soon as the baby slips out the midwife checks for the umbilical cord to make sure its not wrapped around, and immediately gives the baby to the mother. The baby is not at risk of swallowing water at all until the baby takes the first breath of air, which would be when the midwife take her out to the mothers chest after coming out. They have the tools necessary to monitor the baby’s heart beat and figure out what position the baby is in.

I finally came across a birth center in Hollywood who made me feel the most comfortable! Their main licensed midwife was an incredible example of positive thinking and how a natural birth was possible no matter how big the baby.

She had a very natural and holistic approach- believes in a healthy simple life style

The whole team was very attentive to my needs and taking their time answering all my concerns. Best part is they believed that the mother to baby connection was priority more than anything.

I want my birth to be smooth, the only way to make it happen is to prepare for it. That is where hypnobirthing comes in.

Preparing to Water Birth through Hypnobirthing

I’ve learned that epidurals numb the pain but also make it difficult for the mother to tell how hard she has to push which may damage her walls or go against the natural uterine surges (contractions) causing the muscles to tense up and not work in sync with the body to let the baby out smoothly. Epidurals also ruin the connection that a mother could have with her baby when he or she is out because the drug will make her drowsy and possibly even knock her out.

Hypnobirthing is a form of self directed hypnosis that prepares women to breath through the the contractions and not have to push so hard to let the baby out. It teaches you what postures to always be in before birth to make sure the baby gets in the right position, how to breath through the four phases of labor.

I highly recommend: The HypnoBirthing Book!

The book includes:

  • A Relaxation CD
  • Positions for Birth
  • Relaxation Techniques
  • Breathing Techniques
  • Birth Preference Sheets
  • and much more useful information

Here’s one of many videos on HypnoBirthing. I’m 35 weeks, writing this and every time I watch these videos I tear up so much after the baby comes out! Its beautiful!